If You Play Games, I will Show You How It’s Played

“If You Play Games, I will Show You How It’s Played.”

And That’s Exactly Why the Right People Might Swipe Left.

I came across this on the dating profile of someone attending one of my relationship coaching sessions.

“If you are good to me, I am nice. If you play games, I will show you how it’s played.”

It wasn’t a joke. It was part of her bio.
She was looking for something serious. A life partner, marriage, the works.

And I paused.

Not because I didn’t understand the emotion behind it. I did.
We have all been there. Tired of being ghosted, breadcrumbed, led on, disappointed.

You tell yourself: Next time, I will be smarter. Sharper. I will see through the nonsense and beat them at their own game if needed.

But here is the real question:

What kind of person do you think that message attracts?

Because while it might sound like strength, to the people who are actually kind, emotionally available and looking for partnership, it is a warning sign.
Not because they are weak. But because they are not here to play defence.
They are not here to prove they are not "one of the bad ones."
And most of all, they are not drawn to power struggles disguised as connection.

The people who might lean in instead?
They will take it as a challenge.
Or worse, they are already better at manipulation and deception than you are.
You will still lose. Just more slowly and with more damage done.

And don’t get me wrong.
You are probably brilliant. High EQ, high IQ.
You have read the signs, done the work and you know when someone is off.
But that doesn’t mean you need to lead with guardedness.

Because here is what most people forget:

Every line in your profile is energy. It sets the tone. It filters.
Not just the wrong people out but the right ones, too.

And this is where working with a matchmaker changes everything.
Not because they are perfect. But because they see what you may not.

They will help you soften the sharp edges without losing your standards.
They will bring perspective when your default is defence.
They will challenge the idea that love must be earned through tests.
And they will remind you that wanting to protect yourself is valid
but real protection comes from alignment, not armour.

At Match Colab, we don’t just find people.
We help you meet them from a place that’s honest, emotionally safe and clear.
No power games. No performative strength.
Just thoughtful connection, with someone who actually wants the same thing.

So if you’re done with the noise and ready to be met with care,
maybe it’s time to work with someone who’s on your side.